Attachment & Loneliness | Quiet the Machine
Topic

Attachment & Loneliness

Attachment to AI describes the bonds people form with conversational systems — companionship, confiding, routine, and in some cases something people themselves describe as love. Loneliness is both the condition that draws people toward those bonds and, the evidence increasingly suggests, a condition they can deepen.

The direction of causation is the whole question, and the best current work runs both ways. A 2026 Psychological Science study following more than 2,000 adults across four countries for a year found that increased use of social chatbots predicted increased loneliness — while loneliness also predicted increased use. A 2026 Nature Human Behaviour study of 1,131 Character.AI users found that people with smaller offline social networks were the most likely to use chatbots for companionship, and the most likely to report lower well-being as a result.

This hub tracks the relationship between the loneliest users and the systems most willing to keep them company.

Essays

3 essays

Growing Up Without Friction

The cover essay called childhood development the biggest open question with the least data. The first real numbers are starting to arrive, and they complicate the reassuring story.

By Joe Jurczyk

The Feelings We Give Machines

When OpenAI retired a chatbot model, hundreds of thousands of people grieved it like a person. When Anthropic gave its own model the ability to end abusive conversations, it did so while admitting it doesn't know if that model has anything to protect. Two very different research threads, converging on one uncomfortable question.

By Joe Jurczyk

The Grief That Doesn't Move

Mourners have always kept the dead a little alive — in letters, in dreams, in the things they'd say. AI griefbots do the same thing, except now the dead can answer back tonight, in their own words, indefinitely. New research finds real comfort in that and a specific new risk hiding inside it.

By Joe Jurczyk

Research and reporting

4 resources

Related events

3 events

AI and Mental Health Conference 2026

University of Michigan (MIDAS) • October 5, 2026

A one-day conference in Ann Arbor covering AI's current impact on mental health and wellbeing, evidence-based vs. speculative clinical applications, and how AI in mental health should be governed.

Philosophical and Interdisciplinary Perspectives on AI Companionship

University of Southern Denmark — Wellbeing and Virtual Worlds project • June 10, 2026

A two-day interdisciplinary seminar at the University of Southern Denmark examining the philosophical and psychological dimensions of AI companionship, including friendship and love with chatbots, AI therapists, grief bots, and impacts on wellbeing and self-cultivation. Held June 10-11, 2026 in Odense, Denmark.

Intimacy-by-Design: Governing Human-AI Relationships

CPDP Conference 2026 • May 20, 2026

A panel at the CPDP (Computers, Privacy and Data Protection) Conference 2026 on governing emotionally intimate human-AI relationships, organized by researchers from the SENTIMENT project studying how people interact with conversational AI in emotionally sensitive contexts.